The Importance of Filling Your Own Vase First

My #1 takeaway from Rachel Hollis' movie Made For More - The importance of filling your own vase first.

I was watching Rachel Hollis’ movie recently — Made For More — and what stuck out to me MOST was the women/glass-vase analogy.

Did you watch it? Do you remember that part?

Rachel shared a story that a woman once told her about how we, women, are like glass vases tipping themselves over for everyone ELSE constantly.

Here you take some, you take some, you take some, and you take some!

What happens to a glass vase when it is constantly tipping over?


On the other hand, what happens to a glass vase that is full and continues to fill up? 

It naturally OVERFLOWS to everything around it.

I’d like to add that the flowers in the vase (ourselves) drink some of the water everyday, too.

So it’s not a *one time fill up and sustaining outpour forever*. It’s a constant filling up each day of ourselves FIRST so that we naturally pour out to others while we’re also feasting on the fresh water of our vase each day.


What are the things in your life that “fill up your vase”? Here are some of mine:

  • Coffee
  • Good food that energized me
  • Creative time 
  • Sleep 
  • Exercise (walks and weights)
  • Down-time
  • Time with Jesus
  • Prayer
  • Quiet moments 

How can you prioritize YOUR LIST to help fill you up FIRST? How do you know when you’re in the habit of “tipping over”? For me, I know when I’m tipping over because I feel:

  • Scattered
  • Rushed
  • Overwhelmed
  • Like there’s not enough “time”
  • Irritable
  • Impatient
  • “Down”

What about you? What are your signs that you’re not filling your own vase, first?

I’d love to hear takeaways from this post! Share them with me in the comments.

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