Good-morning girls! <3
This post is reader-requested. The question I got from one of YOU read just like this: “I would be interested to hear if you ever fail to listen to your body when it comes to intuitive eating? If so, then how do you get back on track?”
I love this question! Actually, I love ALL of your questions. If you would like to request a post, please feel free to do so in the comments here, allllll the way at the bottom.
It’s so true: sometimes I win & feel great about how I’m listening to my body, and other times I learn. Never though, do I actually FAIL, and neither do you. It’s all progress.
Let’s read this together from the book Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole & Elyse Resch (life-changing book!):
Forget about failure. All of our chronic dieter’s walk into our offices feeling as if they are failures. Whether they are highly placed executives, prominent celebrities, Or straight-A students, they all talk about their food experiences shamefully, and they doubt they’ll ever be able to feel successful in the area of eating. The diet mentality reinforces feelings of success or failure. You can’t fail at Intuitive Eating–it’s a learning process at every point along the way. What used to be thought of as a set-back will instead be seen as a growth experience. You’ll get right back on track when you see this as progress, not failure.
Pretty awesome, right?! What we learned here is that there is no such thing as failing at Intuitive Eating. Instead, we are constantly growing and making progress (even if we feel like we’ve hit a set-back or “messed up”).
Back to the readers question: “…ever fail to listen to your body when it comes to intuitive eating? If so, then how do you get back on track?”
Yes, there are times when I do not listen to my body. Sometimes, accidentally (I just entirely forget to check-in with myself) and other times it’s on purpose (I really just want to eat for the purpose of eating/tasting/pleasure). Both of these give me no guilt (and if they do initially, I remind myself that “guilt never helps” and toss it out the window). My little mantra on guilt really helps me, as it gives me permission to let go of guilt. How is feeling guilty over something that I cannot control (already happened) going to help? It won’t – guilt only makes situations worse.
The other part of the question: “…If so, then how do you get back on track?”
We just learned that we can get back on track easily when we see this ALL of our ups & downs as progress, not failure. This feels counter-intuitive, I know… but let’s roll with it. If this is PROGRESS, then there must be something we can learn, right? In order to learn anything from my eating habits, I have to be communicating with myself (I tell my clients that they’re going to become their own best friends because they’ll talk to themselves so often). Here are some of the questions I might ask myself with corresponding scenarios:
- Scenario – accidentally not listening to my body. Loving response: “Woah, I didn’t even realize I was doing that. Am I feeling stressed? Am I nervous? Anxious? What would really help me to feel calm right now?”
- Scenario – purposefully not listening to my body. Loving response: “It’s okay that sometimes you just want to ‘eat whatever you want.’ Now that you have, how do you feel? Does this feel good? Would you want to relive this same feeling over?”
- Scenario – trying to listen to my body, but feeling like I ‘just can’t stop eating.’ Loving response: “Are you fully believing that you can have this food anytime you want it again? Is there any part of you that feels limited, restricted, or guilty for eating this food? Is there anything else (experiences, thoughts, feelings, comments) going on in this moment that are causing you to feel tense, stressed, or just ‘bad’ in general?” And if so… “What is this food doing for you in the moment?” The food could be: numbing your stress, giving you comfort, company, a distraction, silencing your mind… etc…
Communicating with yourself in this way creates momentum and keeps you from being stuck in a bad-feeling situation. It helps me to recognize my own patters & better address them so that I can honor my bodies needs with Primary Foods (non-food sources of nourishment). Primary Foods are things like relationships, fun, joy, physical activity… I walk through these areas in full with my clients.
Any other scenario’s you’d like me to go through? Comment below & I’ll do my best to answer for you 🙂
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I know this stuff is easier said than done, which is why support is SO important. If you would like to receive support with intuitive eating, listening to your body, and finding your bodies healthiest and happiest weight, jot your name down on this list. I’d love to schedule a free consult with you!
xo, your coach