How to Not Eat Everything in Sight After Work

Is this you? Wondering how to NOT eat everything in sight, especially after work when you're starving? Or when you're around anything that you consider even remotely "naughty"?  I totally get it. This used to be me. But there's hope, I promise.

You walk into the house, starved. You’re beyond hunger. No one is home.

You’re about to go for it – you can feel it. You walk to the kitchen, straight to the cupboards and quickly open the doors to grab your first snack: pretzels.

You eat one, two, then three… fast… quickly!

The pretzels don’t do it so you grab chips and salsa, throw them onto the counter, devour the rest of the salsa and clean that chip bag to crumbs.

You then see a leftover sandwich sitting in the fridge from yesterday and think “what the heck, may as well eat that too.” You grab it, rip open the foil, and eat it while standing over the countertop, chewing too fast to taste it.

When you’re done with the sandwich you’re convinced you need something sweet and since you’ve “ruined the day anyway” you grab that gallon of moose-tracks from your freezer and dig your spoon straight in, without even closing the freezer door.

You end the snack fest thinking “I did it again.”

You don’t feel satisfied, your stomach is stuffed-tight, and you wish you could have had a nice meal… but it’s too late. You’ve already eaten all this other food. There’s no room for that nice dinner you’d intended to make.

You plea with yourself to do better tomorrow, feeling hopeless and thinking why does this always happen? WHO are these people who don’t freak out around food?

Is this you? Wondering how to NOT eat everything in sight, especially after work when you’re starving? Or when you’re around anything that you consider even remotely “naughty”?

I totally get it. This used to be me, multiple nights a week. Frustrated, always searching for “the answer” and exhausted from starting and stopping diets. Why couldn’t I just stick to something? I’d find myself wondering this all the time. 

But there’s hope, I promise (and you can trust me — I was the gal who was convinced she’d never have another normal day of eating again)…

Let’s imagine this scenario differently.

You walk into the house, starved. You’re beyond hunger. No one is home.

You’re about to go for it – you can feel it. You walk to the kitchen, straight to the cupboards and quickly open the doors to grab your first snack: pretzels.

You eat one, two, then three… fast… quickly!

BUT…

THIS time, instead of continuing in that “trance-like” state you take a moment to get aware…

The thought crosses your mind: “You’re not going to like this. THIS is the thing you do that you always regret.”

You step back and zip up the bag of pretzels. You realize this way of eating isn’t going to leave you satisfied; just stuffed and wanting more.

You set the pretzels back on the shelf, you shut the cupboard door.

You grab your water, walk outside, and sit on the porch, thinking about the day you had. You decompress for a few minutes in the fresh air. You can feel the breeze of the trees on your skin. It’s getting dark. You take a moment to settle. You come back to calm…

Before you walk back inside, you acknowledge that you’re still too hungry to start cooking a full meal without having something first.

You ask yourself what you want to start with. You think to yourself “chips and salsa.” You remember how you want to feel:

calm…
settled…

You grab two small bowls. One for chips, one for salsa. You know you COULD eat out of the containers, but you’re able to recognize that you’re just too hungry for that. You want to be mindful so you can feel calm. Collected.

You sit down and enjoy the chips and salsa. It takes the “edge” off of your hunger.

When you’re all finished, you get up slowly, put away the dishes, change into your pajama’s, turn on calming music, light a candle, and start cooking what you had actually planned for dinner: pesto salmon, potatoes, and sautéed spinach.

You went grocery shopping for this meal early in the week, and you remember how much you were looking forward to it. You feel excited that you caught yourself with awareness, calmed down, and get to eat an actual dinner.

As you cook you feel calm. There’s no “sharp edge” to your hunger. You’re thankful you don’t feel stuffed from devouring your cupboards out of anxious hunger.

Thankful that you…

…took a moment to sit outside. To settle.
…ate chips and salsa, mindfully, to calm your hunger.
…get to enjoy cooking dinner, peacefully, without anxiety.

When your dinner is done, you plate it in a crisp white plate. You sit at the table, put a napkin in your lap and you take your first bit. The salmon is cooked perfectly. The pesto butter has melted over the top just right. You’re in heaven. This is exactly what you wanted.

You lean back in your chair between bites. You’re completely satisfied when you finish that last bite thinking “that is exactly what I wanted.” You feel grateful. Ah, it feels good to be aware.

THIS is what EATING WHEN YOU’RE CALM looks like.

Supporting yourself.
Setting yourself up for success.
Reeling yourself back in when you notice something happening that won’t leave you feeling good.
Pulling back, slowing down, and getting to CALM.
Taking the edge off.

YOU have the power to do this within you.

Trust me, I was the girl who thought she was doomed for eternity. That she could never eat normally again. That she’d be stuck reciting the number of calories in every food she ate for the rest of her life.

How would you describe your relationship with food as it is today?

When you eat Italian, do you savor the smell of simmering olive oil and garlic, excited to enjoy the meal with your family? Do you add a pinch of salt to the dish freely, because you know how it will enhance the flavor?

Do you leave dinner with friends expressing how wonderful the food was, feeling connected with your friends, and at peace in your body? (In other words, you don’t feel so stuffed that you’re complaining about the dinner instead of appreciating and admiring its quality and taste…)

As the bread bowl arrives to the table, do you feel relaxed, leaning back in your chair, able to focus on the conversation and calmly grab a roll, tear off a piece and let that buttery goodness melt in your mouth as you carry on a conversation?

When your partner suggests the two of you take a trip together, do you get excited about the adventures and moments you’ll share? The memories you’ll build together?

Or do you…

  • Leave dinner feeling stuffed, mentally consumed, justifying to your friends that you “never eat that way”
  • Decline invitations to dinner and vacations because you’re too freaked out about what the routine/food will be like
  • Forbid yourself from eating Italian food because those carbs don’t fit your macros
  • Jump out of your chair when the bread bowl comes, knowing that if you’re going to do it, you’re going all in (it’s now or never)

What is your relationship to food like right now? If you were to describe the ENERGY of your relationship with food would you describe it as calm? Anxious? Frustrating? Extreme?

If you want to have the kind of relationship to food that I described above… one that is calm, thoughtful, full of pleasure and enjoyment and one that is responsive (not reactive) I would love to help you get there.

Your next step is to book a call with me where we’ll talk about where you are, where you want to be, and how we will help get you there (because it IS possible).

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Love, Paige
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