Love Isn’t Selfless in This Way

Love is patient, love is kind, love is GRATEFUL. It is not envious. But love isn’t selfless in the way the world tends to define it. Loving your people doesn’t mean forgetting yourself or putting yourself to the side. This week we are chatting about giving yourself permission to spend time prioritizing you.

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Did you know something?

Your calming and centering morning journaling routine benefits more people than just you.

Those satisfying foods you take time to prepare and eat to nourish your body with? That also benefits others.

The way you make time to move your body regularly in joyful ways? Again, this is a blessing to your people.

How you protect the white space on your evening calendar and make sure you have some time each night to read, because it feels so rejuvenating to do so? Another practice that benefits you BUT also those around you who have to interact with you, whether you are calm or stressed.

If the voice of guilt creeps in when you take time to care for you, remind the guilt that, “Taking care of me IS a part of taking care of them.”

When we engage in activities that help us feel our best holistically (so physically, emotionally, socially, spiritually, mentally) we are setting ourselves up to love others in a 1 Corinthians 13 sort of way. Below are verses 4-8 from this famous chapter in the Bible:

 “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”

Yes, love has an element of selflessness to it. But to love others does not mean you have to neglect your own basic needs or forget about doing anything that makes you feel good.

Try thinking about it like this: Prioritizing yourself is important for your sake AND theirs.

If you believe in God like I do, you will notice in the Bible that even Jesus Himself took time for self care! In Luke 5:16 it says, “But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.” Did you catch that little word OFTEN in that verse? He regularly took time away from others, to fill His own cup. Jesus never modelled anything bad for us, so if He valued time to recharge so He could then pour into others, we know it’s okay for us to do that too, guilt free.

In this week’s podcast episode, I dive deeper into this concept of selflessness not meaning you neglect yourself. If you are feeling like you have been doing that, taking care of others to the point of not caring for your own needs, dreams and desires, I believe this episode will refreshingly speak life to you!

What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

  • How my definition of selflessness and the world’s definition differ greatly
  • How an animal video my brother sent me greatly inspired and impacted me
  • My tips to help you give your best love to those you do life with

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Love, Paige

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