The Most Important Person to Check-in With

A lot goes on in a day, a week, a month, a year, a lifetime. How often do you think we need to check in with ourselves? How often are you currently in the habit of checking in with yourself? How often do you think it would be beneficial for you to check in with yourself?

Last week a client of mine was wondering how she could remember to check-in with herself more through the day, especially until she’s in the habit of doing so. She shared an app with me that she was going to use to get into this habit. It’s called Daylio. Out of curiosity, I downloaded it too.

It’s awesome you guys. It pings you a couple times and day and says “How are you doing?” You click from the variety of descriptions (rad, good, meh, sad, awful) and then click around to highlight what you’ve done so far that day. It lists out your postings in order, highlighting how you felt and what you did.

This simple act of checking-in in this way, which is new for me, has been so helpful. Normally, I think of myself an introvert. I think of myself as someone who needs more time inside when I’m feeling drained.

However, this app is highlighting something new for me. It’s making me aware of what I have/haven’t done in a day and it’s highlighting for me the things I do consistently on the days I feel my best. And sometimes (often, actually!) it’s getting OUT of the house and spending time with someone I love.

Usually, the things I’ve done on days that feel really good are:

• taken time to relax
• gone to coffee
• seen a friend
• exercised
• done something nice for myself
• had at least one good meal

It’s not just one of these things but the combination of most of them that make me feel my best. It might sound like a lot, but it’s not (though one is definitely better than none).

This morning I sat down with a blank sketchbook and I wrote out: “How’s it going?” I wrote down a list of what’s going well, using one word each: marriage, travel, grief, etc… Then next to each word I wrote out what about each thing is feeling good right now.

Then I got to thinking how important it is for us to slow down and check-in with ourselves.

YOU are the most important person in your life to check-in with. 

Here’s what I believe checking-in with yourself will help with:

• can I just write “everything”?
• being more decisive
• communicating your needs
• planning your days with intention
• taking time for yourself
• slowing down, naturally
• being easier on yourself
• asking for help
• tuning IN with your loved ones
• doing less of what doesn’t fill you
• creating more of what you want in life
• and the list goes on

ALL of these improvements happen because when you’re checking in with yourself you’re more aware of what you want, what you need, and how you’re feeling. 

Share with me in the comments. How will you check in with yourself more today? Once you have, come back and share with me how it’s going. Remember, YOU are the most important person in your life that you need to check-in with.

If you’re in need of a tangible simple way to check-in, check out the app my client recommended to me – Daylio. This is not sponsored by the way. I’m simply sharing what one of my clients shared with me because I’ve been enjoying it.

P.S. I’ll be sharing something new and exciting over on Insta tomorrow so make sure you’re following along! 💛 @paigeschmidt