Now, let’s dive into this post! A reader asked me a great question that I thought I would talk about today because I feel like many of us can relate. Actually, I know we can because many of you asked to see this post yesterday.
Her question: “I was wondering if you could do a post about how to spend a weekend or a couple of days alone when your boyfriend is out of town. This is something I struggle with. I tend to get a little sad and my anxiety tends to kick in.”
Let me start by saying that it is completely normal to feel sad or anxious when you aren’t sure of what to do and have more empty space and time. Since I work from home health coaching, I completely understand what it’s like to be alone for a long period of time. At times, it can feel uncomfortable. However, I have realized that we all have one of two options when this occurs:
- Stay stuck feeling lonely by continuing to think about being alone
- Remind yourself that you do have other options and that you can check in with yourself and ask what will make you feel good
It definitely depends on your personality as to what you might want to do while you’re alone. I have a list of things that I will share with you that I love doing or want to try doing when I am alone. If you’re not sure of what you like doing, I encourage you to experiment and see what brings you the most joy!
Some of my ideas include:
- Going to a coffee shop to work, write, journal, or read
- Getting dressed up just because
- Waking up and having quiet time with coffee/tea
- Taking yourself to dinner
- Going to the movies
- Trying a Meetup group in your area (I’ve been LOVING this lately)
- Taking a hot shower or bath
- Pampering myself (hair, nails, putting together new outfits)
- Planning a trip or going somewhere you’ve never been
- Taking a walk around town
A way to gather some ideas of what to do is to think of things that you enjoy doing with others and trying those things on your own. Decide how you can make the experience even better than if you were with someone (alone time can be awesome).
Just to note: for some, it can be super intimidating doing things alone like going to a restaurant or the movies. However, I promise you that no one is thinking anything of it. If anything, they are inspired by your action to do these things for yourself!
As an example, I mentioned last week that my intern spontaneously road tripped by herself up the California coast, and ended up stopping to visit me for a night. We had such a great time talking life, health coaching, IIN, and our future. She knew that she did not want to stay in her house alone for the weekend, so she did what felt good for her and it ended up being such a fun and exciting trip (see post)!
Lastly, I use a planner all the time. I’ve always had one, and it helps me remember all of my coaching sessions, dates, friend times, etc. If you don’t already use one, I cannot encourage it enough. Remember, having a planner does not mean that you cannot be spontaneous. Instead, your planner is your partner in helping you to be intentional with your time. I have a bright pink calendar that’s just for fun and joy, and I make sure to have 1-3 pink events each day.
So, try to enjoy your alone time by checking in with yourself, using your planner, and doing things that spark joy for you. Before you know it, your boyfriend (or whoever it is that’s gone for the weekend) will be back in town, and you can share all the fun and exciting things you did while they were away.
How did this help you all? Do you have ways of dealing with being alone for a while? I’d love to hear them!